When I was preggo with my little girl I felt that my relationship with my hubby, Jon, had changed. Fortunately, not in an estranged way, but in a great bonding way. I felt he was so understanding to my symptoms and aches and pains. I don't think he experienced the
Couvade Syndrome (when fathers-to-be are so affected, they experience symptoms of pregnancy right along with their pregnant partners, a phenomenon called Couvade Syndrome), but I would have loved to have seen him go through what I did.
I must admit that one thing that definitely changed in our relationship was SEX. There were times that I thought I had the best sex of my life, but once my stomach started to grow I definitely noticed that he was aware of this. He was kind of taken back, which in turn didn't help me sexually. Honestly, I felt less sexy when my belly got pretty big. He did do a good job figuring out when I was in the mood and help me feel sexy by laying on the compliments!
A little info on
pregnancy and sex:
Some women report that sex during pregnancy is the best they've ever had while others admit that it's not what it once was. The heightened pleasure is usually attributed to increased blood flow to the pelvic area, also known as engorgement of the genitals. If you find that sex has become particularly enjoyable during pregnancy it may be because you finally feel free from worries about conception and contraception, and are feeling sexier than ever. But if you find yourself on the other end of the spectrum and sex is not as appealing, this can be due to several factors. The same engorgement that can push some women over the threshold of ecstasy can give other women an uncomfortable feeling of fullness after having sex and some women may feel abdominal cramping during or after sex. It may just be that you're tired or too nauseated to have sex or even care about it, especially in the first trimester. Things should pick up once you're past the first trimester and the second trimester is often marked by a resurging libido.
Your libido may wane again in the third trimester, as impending labor and delivery - and your belly - loom large. By this point, some women just simply feel unattractive. Ironically, your partner's sex drive may actually increase as your pregnancy progresses, as he's drawn to your more curvaceous and feminine body. But some partners do experience a decreased libido if he's overly concerned for your health and that of your baby, or if he's apprehensive about becoming a father, that he'll hurt the baby, or if he's feeling self-conscious about making love in the presence of the unborn child.
Yes, the relationship did change. I felt like I started to rely on him more and I could feel my love for him grow stronger. Because we were going through this amazing experience together, we have a stronger bond than we've ever had before.
... but I wonder if it will change the second time around. I hope it stays just as exciting.
So, let me know,
how has your relationship changed since you found out you were pregnant? Is it better than ever or have you lost the intimacy you once had?
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12 comments:
Im pregnant with my second baby. My first one is 10 months old. Both pregnancies were planned.DH was more involved and energetic with my first. I didnt feel emotionally deprived then. Now we hardly spend any time together and i dont believe its bec we're busy with my son. He seems to be aloof and indifferent to my aches and pains, even sex. Bec of all this and of course fatigue and hormonal 'mood swings' I feel deprived, and lonely. So i believe relationship does change with time and when i need him most ie now he doesnt seem to be available. (sorry about such a gloomy response)
Ditto, ditto, ditto; my partner has defo shown his true colours and seems to be getting worse the further I go into my pregnancy. I am still working, but due to finish very soon; he obviously works and seems to spend most week nights out somewhere until at least 8:30pm! I find I am alone a lot of the time, which isn't good at my stage in pregnancy, as I could drop any day now. What is one to do??
I m pregenent with my first baby.In the first trimester sex was very infrequent n not so exciting. But now i m in my 5 month n sex is great, more so because we both feel a new emotional bonding n because of that sex is not jus physically satisfying but it also satisfies me emotionally n spiritually. Initially my hubby was afride to even touch me cause he didnt want to hurt me or the baby but he came over it slowly when he realized how much i was enjoying our intimate moments. I m having the best time of my life!!!!
Dear future moms,
Every man is different when it comes to pregnancy. Those who have loving, sweet, and caring husbands especially throughout your pregnancy should treasure them. You are truly blessed. My husband and I have kids from our previous marriage and I am now pregnant with my third child. (It was a surprise, but what a wonderful surprise.) I had one two years ago. What can I say...My husband is cold blooded, not affectionate, will have sex once in a while and of course he himself goes through mood swings which is very hard for me to deal with, since I'm going though some too. He doesn't care if what he says hurts me at all. He doesn't realize that I have a baby forming inside. I am two months, and I always tell him that what goes around comes around. Basically since I am on the defensive mode constantly, I will answer back if what he said something nasty. All men should be more caring, more loving, and more considerate to their pregnant wives, especially since you are building his baby inside, but once again not all men are the same, so ladies thank God everyday if your husband is good to you. Try to be nice to him, because he is truly a treasure. I welcome any advise on my situation. Thanks and have a blessed day.
This is my 2nd baby from my second relationship, and my pregnancy I believe came to define us. We fight constantly because instead of my husband beign affectionate, he has distanced himself and parties every weekend and left the country for a month and did not give me one call to ask how I am doing. He treats me like if I am his enemy. I am very hurt, I feel he intentionally tries to hurt me emotionally and is not considerate. So women if you do have a man who takes care of you and is patient , treasure him.. And for myself, my experience is , it a man does not support me while I'm pregnant he is not worth anything and this will be my last pregnancy, no man deserves a baby of mine so I am cutting my fallopian tubes and goodbye to pregnancy for ever..unfortunately.. but good luck and bless those men that are grateful and caring with their wives..
This is my 2nd baby from my second relationship, and my pregnancy I believe came to define us. We fight constantly because instead of my husband beign affectionate, he has distanced himself and parties every weekend and left the country for a month and did not give me one call to ask how I am doing. He treats me like if I am his enemy. I am very hurt, I feel he intentionally tries to hurt me emotionally and is not considerate. So women if you do have a man who takes care of you and is patient , treasure him.. And for myself, my experience is , it a man does not support me while I'm pregnant he is not worth anything and this will be my last pregnancy, no man deserves a baby of mine so I am cutting my fallopian tubes and goodbye to pregnancy for ever..unfortunately.. but good luck and bless those men that are grateful and caring with their wives..
Our relationship has indeed changed for the better. It seems as if we have already grown so much together! He is so wonderful, he tries all the time to make me feel special and beautiful and it makes me so happy to be carrying his baby! Of course I feel bad that our sex life isn't too hot right now. I'm 30 weeks (7 months) and it is just really uncomfortable for me to have sex. He just can't seem to keep his hands off me, so we've been trying to be intimate in various ways...massage, tickling, spooning, cuddling, etc. I wouldn't know what to do if my SO wasn't caring and loving and completely understanding while I was carrying his child! My heart goes out to all the women out there who are putting up with men who are just jerks!
Hi! It's my first pregnancy - 17 weeks! We are having sex every couple of weeks - Every since we rented "Knocked Up," my husband has decided he's freaked out about hurting the baby. LOL. I'm focusing on what he IS doing - he's started getting the house ready for the baby, is super considerate, goes out of his way to help me, rubs my back whenever I ask. And I keep initiating sex because I don't want it to go away. Oh, how we sacrifice! :) If he can't do it right then, oh well, there will be another day. We are growing closer emotionally and I find I can count on him more now for things other than sex.
im pregs with my third child although physically its been the hardest one yet my partner has been brilliant, he works long hours but always makes time for me and helps out alto with the other two children. ive had terrible moodswings which does cause tension but my partner goes for a walk til ive calmed down, i no i sound like a nuta but it works.
hes really supportive when it comes to my aches and pains he always lets me no how proud he is that am doing a good job carrying his baby i think its has and will keep bringing us closer together.
1st trimester I was feeling way too sick for sex... I'm in 2nd now, but so tired and my libido is kind of non-existent. I don't know if that's the hormones or if it's because I'm so tired or what...
But my partner has been so generous and supportive and understanding, and we've been bonding in new ways, even though I really want to be able to give him more than cuddles! I just really hope my libido comes back at some point!
Me and my husband ae expecting our first little girl in April. We were so happy when we first found out. We have only been married for 7 months and we are already 5 months along. We use to be so close we would finish each others sentences and knew what the other was thinking. Ever since I have been in the 2nd trimester of this pregnancy, me and my usband have been very estranged. We dont even talk about....well, nothing like we use to. I have been VERY EMOTIONALLY UNSTABLE and i know that it drives him crazy, but all I want is to know that he is there for me and with me thru this. We lso decided that since our relationship has gone sour, this is going to be our one and only child, he does not want to go thru this again and neither do i. I am just praying that when she is here, that we are able to have what we use to have. I love him so much and I cannot stand being so seperated.
I'm 7 months pregnant and been having a difficult time with it all. From the beginning I had morning sickness all day, fatigue, and depression. Those feelings have changed, but now I feel tired and a lot of pain in my private area and the doctors say that is normal. I can honestly say that I don't think that my boyfriend and I have had sex more than 10 times since we found out. He is getting very frustrated and irritated and driving me crazy. All we do is fight, because I don't give him any attention, so he says. I do give him attention just no sex. I have no desire and I want it to comeback and worry that it won't. He is a good man and has been patient with me, up until now. When he starts feeling better we sit down and discuss what he feels and what I feel and he understands for about 2hrs. Just pray that we will survive and overcome our sexually frustated selves.
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