Friday, October 27, 2006

12 Big, Fat Parenting Lies

I found this site, Pregnancy and Newborn Mag, that has great pregnancy and baby articles. I recommend checking it out. It's a lot of fun to read and you'll most likely enjoy a good laugh. To give you a taste of one of their articles, below is one that I like. It will well inform you about the parenting myths that aren't necessarily true and you shouldn't believe! _______________________________________________________ These old wives’ tales aren’t just untrue, they’re also plain bad advice. One thing you’ll find as a new parent is that everyone has an opinion about how you should take care of your baby—your mom, your neighbor, the woman in line next to you at the supermarket. Here’s the skinny on 12 passed-around parenting myths that you can safely ignore. (If only it were so easy to brush off those well-intentioned comments about your baby weight!) 1 : You’ll spoil your baby if you pick him up every time he cries. Newborns aren’t capable of being manipulative—if your baby is crying it’s because he needs something. Meeting his needs won’t turn him into a brat. 2 : Breastfeeding is the most natural thing in the world. Well OK, maybe it’s natural, but that sure doesn’t mean that it’s easy. Breastfeeding is possibly the hardest thing that new moms face. The good news? It’s totally worth all the hard work. 3 : You’ll look exactly like you used to if you stay in shape. You might weigh the same or get back down to the same clothing size, but your body will never be exactly the same after pregnancy, particularly your breasts and hips. On a good note, though, some people find that when it’s all said and done they look even better than they did before. 4 : Bottle-fed babies are fat and stupid. Were you breastfed? What about your doctor? Your college professors? Albert Einstein? It’s great if breastfeeding works for you, but if doesn’t, nobody’s going to know in two years whether you did it or not unless you tell them. 5 : Parenting comes naturally. Most moms love their babies automatically, but that doesn’t mean that they have any idea what to do with them. It takes a little time for all of us to feel as though we really “get” it. 6 : Pacifiers are evil. If your baby is one of those whose need to suck is not met by breast or bottle alone,a pacifier is like a gift from the heavens. As long as they kick the habit at a reasonable age, pacifier addiction is just not the end of the world. 7 : Parents make their children who they are. Kids are born with personalities as diverse as adults—as a parent, you can and will mold and shape your child, but you will not change his personality. Some babies cry more than others, some smile at everyone they see and some refuse to even look at other people. However your child turns out (which will be perfect, of course), embrace who she is and don’t feel guilty if she doesn’t fit some kind of “happy baby” mold. 8 : Babies eat every four hours. Bottle-fed babies will probably get onto a fourhour schedule pretty quickly, but breastfed babies tend to eat much more frequently— and all babies eat pretty much when they want to. Oh, and those eight hour stretches of sleep at night? Seven years and two kids later, I still feel as though I’ve hit the jackpot when I get one. 9 : You forget how bad labor really hurts. I’m not going to dwell on it because you probably don’t need to hear it, but I’m just saying: I haven’t forgotten. 10 : Having a baby makes your relationship stronger. It might in the long run, but most couples go through a rough patch after the birth of a new baby. It’s normal to argue with your spouse more than usual and to feel angry and resentful towards him, particularly if he’s running out the door to work every morning for hot lunches and adult conversations and you haven’t even managed to shower in three days. The important thing is to keep communications open and remember that it is going to get easier. 11 : You can resume “normal” sexual relations in six weeks. Physically, you might be able to, but emotionally? Give a new mom an extra hour in bed and she’s going to sleep—and rightfully so. The passion will reignite in time, but it’s probably not going to happen in six weeks. 12 : Parents make the rules, not the kids. In theory, yes. And there are definitely some rules, such as safety rules, that parents absolutely must make and enforce. But as for the rules like, “Your child’s clothes have to match” or “Every baby needs to be weaned at 12 months”—those are usually negotiable. As my dad always says, pick your battles—and try to pick ones that you actually might win.

Thursday, October 26, 2006

Funny Pregnancy Video At Month #7

I thought this was really funny and TRUE! Hope you enjoy!

Addict pair 'gave baby overdose'

I usually don't like to put upsetting stories on my blog. I don't want to upset anyone, but you know that we don't live in a world that is always happy. I felt like adding this news article from BBC News, because it blew my mind how selfish and unthoughtful some people can be. I'm sorry if this story is very disturbing to you. _______________________________________________________ A heroin addict couple killed their baby son with an overdose of methadone, a court has been told.

Mark Bate, 33, and 23-year-old partner Gemma Fennelly are accused of the manslaughter of 22-month-old Mitchell Bate in Hartlepool last September.

It was claimed at Teesside Crown Court that they regularly fed the toddler doses of the drug to make him sleep and give them some peace.

The couple, from Hartlepool, have denied the charge.

The court also heard that traces of heroin and cocaine were found in hair samples taken from the youngster after his death.

Andrew Robertson QC, prosecuting, told the court both parents were receiving prescription drugs in an attempt to reduce their heroin dependency.

He said Mitchell had deliberately been fed methadone in the months leading up to the fatal overdose.

Mr Robertson added: "You could ask yourself why they would do such a thing. The answer may be simple.

"Methadone makes you drowsy and helps children sleep through, giving their parents a quiet night.

"The prosecution does not suggest what they did was born out of wickedness. It was born both of selfishness on their part and gross disregard of the risks involved."

'Regular doses'

The court heard that Mitchell's parents kept their prescribed medication in a locked metal box on a kitchen shelf.

Mr Robertson also told the court that samples showed Mitchell had 0.21 microgrammes of methadone per millilitre of blood.

He said this proved that the young child had regular doses over a protracted period.

Mr Bate and Ms Fennelly, of Rodney Street, Hartlepool, also face alternative charges of manslaughter by an unlawful act, namely administering a dose of methadone, or manslaughter by gross negligence by allowing a child access to a fatal dose of methadone.

The trial continues.

Wednesday, October 25, 2006

Do's and don'ts of cooking food for your baby

YOU TAKE cooking even more personally when you're playing personal chef to your baby.

What are the most nutritious foods to cook? Am I handling them safely? How will I store homemade baby food? When will I ever have time? And after all that, will my kitchen's smallest customer like what I make?

I didn't want my daughter's first food to pack all the excitement of a TV dinner. I like to cook and wanted her to enjoy the Bay Area's culinary finery from the beginning. While we've reached for a couple of organic jarred foods in a pinch, I've made almost all her meals since she started eating at 6 months.

I mostly cook and freeze homemade purees, thawing small batches as needed. It's a routine shared by many moms also reluctant to feed their babies processed food.

If you'd like to play chef to baby, there is plenty of good experience and advice to follow. Homemade baby food has been around a lot longer than store-bought versions, which the Gerber family first debuted in 1928. Here are a few basic suggestions:

Nutrition

The same nutrition guidelines apply to purchased and homemade baby food. Follow your pediatrician's guidelines for what foods to introduce when.

-In general, baby meals start simply, with mild pureed fruits and vegetables such as peas or pears. Meals get more complex as your baby grows.

-Brightly colored fruits and vegetables, such as sweet potatoes, usually pack more nutrients.

-Shorter cooking times preserve

more nutrients. Many home baby food cooks prefer steaming to other cooking methods.

-Added sugar brings unnecessary calories and encourages a sweet tooth.

-While some studies suggest that organic produce carries more nutrients than conventional produce, there is little

general agreement on this point.

Safety

-Keep all your cooking utensils and cutting surfaces especially clean if cooking for a baby because they're more sensitive to bacteria.

-Refrigerate or freeze foods as quickly as you can after cooking and cooling to room temperature.

-Limit or avoid highly acidic foods such as citrus fruits for babies under a year old.

-For babies under 8 months old, stay away from cooking root and leafy vegetables, including beets and spinach, that can contain high levels of nitrates. Baby food companies screen produce for nitrates, which can cause a form of anemia. For more information, see http://www.cuisinart.com/baby/blog.

-Follow your pediatrician's recommendations on avoiding allergens, including egg whites and nuts.

-Organic ingredients usually carry fewer pesticides and other contaminants.

Cooking and storage

-Most produce can be steamed or roasted with the skin on to preserve nutrients. -After cooking, puree foods in a food processor or baby food grinder. -Food that will be served within a day or two can be stored in the refrigerator. -Many moms freeze homemade baby food in ice cube trays and then store the cubes in labeled freezer bags. -Be aware that frozen baby food will probably take up more freezer space than you expect. Clear out some room ahead of time. Time This is the biggest challenge for busy parents. Even a simple batch of pears can take about an hour, including washing, peeling, steaming, pureeing, freezing and cleanup. -Set aside an evening or weekend afternoon to prepare several dishes at once. -As your baby grows, you can save time by feeding him or her what the rest of the family is eating. Foods can be cut into small chunks or pureed right before serving.

Tastes You can never be sure what foods your baby will like, or when. Pediatricians advise patience, saying many babies need to have a food offered many times before they will accept it. -Try making only a small amount of a new food to see how your baby responds before you make a huge batch that sits in your freezer uneaten. -Taste your baby food before serving it. If that butternut squash seems a little bitter to you, there's a good chance your baby will say "No way." -Remember that just because you like something doesn't mean your baby will. When Ava makes a face over a homemade meal, I try to think of it as an early lesson in all the negotiations over food ("How about just one bite?") in the years to come. If Ava pushes away a dish after a few bites, we just try again later. Or I end up using the rejected fruit and veggie purees in smoothies, yogurt or soup for my husband and me. -Food processor maker Cuisinart has launched an online site about babies and homemade baby food at http://www.cuisinart.com/baby/, with dozens of recipes organized by eating stage. -Baby food recipes can be found online at http://www.insidebayarea.com.

Source: Inside Bay Area

Tuesday, October 24, 2006

Pregnant Celebs

Curious to know which celebs are pregnant? Well, check out the list given to us by Maternity & Style. Oh, and look at Brooke Burke's belly bump! Doesn't she look cute?

Heidi Klum & Seal - wasn't she just pregnant? The sultry singer and hottie legs model are in fact pregnant again.

Philip Seymour Hoffman & Mimi O'Connell - Which do you think Philip is more excited about? A new baby or his Oscar?

Tobey Maguire & Jen Meyer - There will be a little Spiderman among us in December. And talk about a star couple - Meyer's father is the president of Universal Studios.

Elvis Costello & Diana Krall - Twins for this singing duo will certainly make life more hectic.

Will Farrell & Viveca Paulin - America's favorite funny man isn't sharing what the sex of the baby is.

Lauren Ambrose & Sam Handel - I hope that this Six Feet Under star has a little one with bright red hair to match mom.

Kimberly Williams & Brad Paisley - Williams might have a little experience in the baby drama from her movie, Father of the Bride II. Do you think Martin Short will be around to decorate the nursery?

Gillian Anderson & Mark Griffiths - Instead of the X Files, it'll be more like the XX or XY Files.

Sofia Coppola & Thomas Mars - The Marie Antoinette director certainly has a lot to be thankful for this year! A new movie and a new addition.

Brooke Burke & David Charvet - I'll bet big money that this baby will love the beach as much as its parents do.

Bryce Dallas Howard & Seth Gabel - Howard is the daughter of Ron Howard which means the former Happy Days star will soon be a grandfather. Which I personally can't believe just yet.

Stella McCartney & Alasdhair Willis - Hopefully the new addition will be a bright spot for grandfather Paul McCartney who is going through a nasty divorce with Heather Mills.

Diddy & Kim Porter - Diddy's become quite the ladies man - the media mogul is expecting twin girls.

Patrick Dempsey & Jillian Fink - Jumping on the twin train is Dempsey and wife except they're expecting twin boys!

Marcia Cross & Tom Mahoney - While we're on the subject of twins, let's not forget my favorite Desperate Housewife who is also pregnant with twins. It must be the water.

Toni Spelling & Dean McDermott - Donna Martin is all grown up!

Keisha Castle-Hughes & Bradley Hull - The star of Whale Rider is the youngest expecting mom - she's 16 and her boyfriend of three years is 19.

Amanda Peet & David Benioff - It's been confirmed that they are going to write the pregnancy into the script of Peet's character on Studio 60. But who will the father be?

Kristy Swanson & Lloyd Eisler - This is certainly a scandel. Swanson and Eisler met while shooting the reality show, Skating with Celebrities. The scandalous part? Eisler was already married and expecting a baby. Let's hope it's smooth skating for these two.

Pregnant Women: Keep Food Safe

When women are pregnant, their risk of developing foodborne illness increases and even a mild case of food poisoning can have serious consequences. Protect yourself and your unborn infant from foodborne illness by practicing good food safety habits. Pregnant women should take special precautions when shopping for, handling, preparing and storing food since you are more vulnerable to foodborne illness. Do not eat meats, poultry, seafood and eggs that are raw or undercooked. Also, unpasteurized dairy products like raw milk and some imported cheeses can pose safety threats to pregnant women. Everyone, not just pregnant women, can help prevent food poisoning by taking control of food safety in their homes and by following basic food safety tips:
  • Wash hand often.
  • Keep raw foods and ready-to-eat foods separate.
  • Cook to proper temperatures.
  • Refrigerate promptly below 40 degrees F.
Source: NBC6

Monday, October 23, 2006

? OF THE WEEK: Would You Choose The Sex Of Your Baby?

What would you do if you had 4 boys and you really wanted a girl? Would you look into the option of choosing your baby's sex? In case you were wondering if choosing the sex of your baby is possible, it is, thanks to the advancement in fertility treatments. Now doctors can create embryos of a certain sex that is desired by the parents. The only issue is that it isn't actually affordable or even all that available. If you look into doing this you might find that it would cost tens of thousands of dollars. Not only is it pricey, but you would have to meet strict eligibility requirements too. Many cases you would have to be married and have one child of the opposite sex from the one you're trying for. Other clinics have age limits, therefore you would have to take a hormone test to prove you are not approaching menopause. Here is a list of Pros and Cons for sex selection:
Pros

• If you do get pregnant, PGD guarantees with almost 100 percent certainty that you'll have a baby of your desired gender. • Following a PGD cycle, remaining embryos of the selected gender are automatically frozen. These can used in another attempt, if you miscarry or decide you want more children down the road. Frozen embryo transfers aren't as successful as fresh transfers, but the procedure is less invasive and significantly cheaper. Cons

• A single round of PGD can cost nearly $20,000.

• The procedure is invasive and the removal of eggs from your ovaries can be painful.

• The fertility drugs you have to take can have uncomfortable side effects such as weight gain, bloating, swelling, and blurred vision.

• As with any IVF pregnancy, you're more likely to have multiple births. According to the latest statistics from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, 38 percent of infants conceived as a result of IVF and related procedures were twins.

• About 43% of fresh IVF cycles result in a live birth, and that figure goes down as you get older. But some doctors claim higher success rates with PGD because defective embryos are excluded.

• You'll need to decide what to do with the embryos of the undesired gender: freeze, destroy, or donate for other couples or research.
Please put aside the affordability and availability factor, and lets say its an easy process, would you consider choosing the sex of your baby? Or do you find it against what Mother Nature intended? Check out: Gender selection: Three Mom's Stories

Cactus Pacifier

This is a cactus-modded pacifier that was made (invented) in Germany. Click the source below and see a simple how-to-image, so you can create your own. Mind you, this image was on a Daddy blog! Talk about a mean joke for a baby. Source: Dabby Types