I have always thought that the most amazing event in a woman’s life was to grow and develop a few cells into a living baby…that is, until 2 ½ years ago when I was expecting my first child.
My husband and I tried for almost 2 years to conceive, and just as we were ready to call it quits, we discovered that I was pregnant. Overjoyed, we went into our first sonogram (at 7 weeks) and were amazed when we saw 2 heartbeats.
In 4 weeks we returned for another sonogram. The doctor had trouble finding the second baby, but thought he could see him hiding behind the first one. In the 15th week, we returned once again for another sonogram and was devastated at what the doctor found. One baby was thriving. The heartbeat was strong, and he was bouncing around. The other baby…well, he was gone. Vanished! There was no bleeding. No discharge. Just an empty sac of fluid remained in my womb, along with the healthy baby to remind us that there were 2 babies just a few weeks earlier.
Vanishing Twin Syndrome (or ‘Disappearing Twin), we were told, is actually more common than you would think. The doctor explained to us that most women ‘lose’ a twin within the first few weeks of pregnancy, and unless they have had a sonogram in the early weeks, such as I had, than they are simply unaware that a twin had even existed.
My question was “So what actually happened to the baby?” After talking to the doctor and hours of research I discovered that THIS had to be the most amazing event that could possibly happen in a woman’s life!
The fetus, after conception begins to grow. In just a matter of a few days, some begin to dissolve back into the mother’s body. Some babies, like mine, actually grow until the heart begins to beat. Unfortunately, this does not mean that they are thriving and healthy.
No one seemed to have the exact answer of what actually happened to the baby, but with no blood, no discharge, and an empty sac of fluid, there is only one conclusion that everyone seems to agree on. The baby just ‘disappeared’, dissolving back into my body, just as it had evolved a few weeks earlier.
My heart is sadden each time I see a set of twins. It reminds me of the unborn child that had once lived inside of me for a very short time. I often hear newly expectant mothers joyfully chatting about expecting twins (just as I had done). I can only hope that they are able to carry both babies successfully and be spared from the heartbreak that I felt when I realized that one of my precious beings inside of me was no longer there.
Thankfully, the other precious being developed completely. He is now the most wonderful 2-year-old I could have ever imagined. And for this, I know that I am truly blessed.pregnancy baby pregnant new born children infant weekly pregnancy weekly maternity expecting due date parenting ultrasound labor mother newborn fertility parents childbirth family