Friday, February 24, 2006

Pregnancy Weekly Guest Writer- Heather

I have always thought that the most amazing event in a woman’s life was to grow and develop a few cells into a living baby…that is, until 2 ½ years ago when I was expecting my first child.

My husband and I tried for almost 2 years to conceive, and just as we were ready to call it quits, we discovered that I was pregnant. Overjoyed, we went into our first sonogram (at 7 weeks) and were amazed when we saw 2 heartbeats.

In 4 weeks we returned for another sonogram. The doctor had trouble finding the second baby, but thought he could see him hiding behind the first one. In the 15th week, we returned once again for another sonogram and was devastated at what the doctor found. One baby was thriving. The heartbeat was strong, and he was bouncing around. The other baby…well, he was gone. Vanished! There was no bleeding. No discharge. Just an empty sac of fluid remained in my womb, along with the healthy baby to remind us that there were 2 babies just a few weeks earlier.

Vanishing Twin Syndrome (or ‘Disappearing Twin), we were told, is actually more common than you would think. The doctor explained to us that most women ‘lose’ a twin within the first few weeks of pregnancy, and unless they have had a sonogram in the early weeks, such as I had, than they are simply unaware that a twin had even existed.

My question was “So what actually happened to the baby?” After talking to the doctor and hours of research I discovered that THIS had to be the most amazing event that could possibly happen in a woman’s life!

The fetus, after conception begins to grow. In just a matter of a few days, some begin to dissolve back into the mother’s body. Some babies, like mine, actually grow until the heart begins to beat. Unfortunately, this does not mean that they are thriving and healthy.

No one seemed to have the exact answer of what actually happened to the baby, but with no blood, no discharge, and an empty sac of fluid, there is only one conclusion that everyone seems to agree on. The baby just ‘disappeared’, dissolving back into my body, just as it had evolved a few weeks earlier.

My heart is sadden each time I see a set of twins. It reminds me of the unborn child that had once lived inside of me for a very short time. I often hear newly expectant mothers joyfully chatting about expecting twins (just as I had done). I can only hope that they are able to carry both babies successfully and be spared from the heartbreak that I felt when I realized that one of my precious beings inside of me was no longer there.

Thankfully, the other precious being developed completely. He is now the most wonderful 2-year-old I could have ever imagined. And for this, I know that I am truly blessed.

Thursday, February 23, 2006

PregnancyWeekly Guest Writer- Tara

I've learned that taking birth control doesn't always work. I have just had a baby July 5, 2005 and begin taking birth control afterwards. I had a beautiful baby boy. I took orthro try-cyclen. Took it everyday at 2 p.m. The funny thing about all of this is that I found out I was pregnant with my son on November 7, 2004. My son came out 7 pounds 5 ounces(he was born 7/5/05). So continuing with the story, I stopped taking the birth control, something told me I was pregnant, I had all the symptoms, I felt a baby move, (even though it was too early for it) I felt all that. And then I went to get a pregnancy test done 3 times. All came back negative. Then I finally said that was it, and on November 8, 2005 I went and got another one done. It came back positive. When I got an ultrasound done, I found out I was due on my sons birthday, July 5, 2006. I began to wonder why I had so much in common with 7,5?!?

Wednesday, February 22, 2006

I Took A Peek At My Baby

I reached my 11 weeks and I finally got my first ultrasound yesterday! I was super nervous! I like to feel in complete control, but with a situation like that, its just difficult. I wanted to see a baby and hear a strong heart beat. I wanted everything to come out great!

When I was heading for the hospital my hands started to get really cold and heart began to beat a little faster... I was going to see my little baby for the first time! While my husband was driving, I had this funny little tingle inside me that gave me thoughts of us actually being a family. I thought, "Wow, this is actually happening and we are going to be a family!"

After the ultrasound I was definitely in a happy place in my mind. I was once again content and no longer stressed out. Just the fact that I knew my baby was there, healthy and growing with wonderful heartbeat, I was thrilled. I couldn't make out my baby's face or anything, but that was expected. Words could not describe the feeling I had when I first heard my baby's heartbeat. The heartbeat was strong and the baby's measurements looked normal, and that made my day! I wanted to celebrate!

I was on a super high yesterday and still am! My baby is looking great! Eventhough, I am struggling with nausea, headaches, fatigue, backaches, mood swings, and trouble sleeping, I'm trying to keep my cool and be the proud pregnant woman that I am. Did my I mention that my sex life is slowly going down the tubes?

If you have any ultrasound stories please share. Make a comment or write me an email. If its good you can be the next PregnancyWeekly Guest Writer!

PregnancyWeekly Guest Writer- Kristin

Well, luckily I thought this was funny...

A week ago I had an appointment to go see my regular doctor for an Asthma check-up. At that point I was almost 27 weeks along. The last time I was at this particular Dr, I wasn't even 8 weeks along. I walked into the office and the nurse asked me to take off my coat so she could weigh me. Yeah! My favorite part! Anyway, I took off my coat, made a joke about my heavy shoes and stepped on the scale. The nurse told me my weight and then we sat down. As she was writing it in my chart, she looked at what I weighed last time I was there (at 7 1/2 weeks...) and said to me again, in a skeptical tone, "How much did I just say that you weighed?" I repeated the number. She looked at my previous weight and said "Well, I guess that's only 6pounds..." It was actually 16 pounds, but I don't think she could bring herself to believe it. Then she said "Well, that's OK, the Holidays can do that." SoI pointed to my, I thought, rather large round tummy and said "I think this helps too..." So she finally looks down at my belly and says (with a huge sigh of relief...) "OH! I didn't even notice!" Yes, Ladies...this was a nurse!

Luckily I have a good sense of humor, and this makes a fun story to tell my friends and family! :) Hope you enjoy!

Tuesday, February 21, 2006

PregnancyWeekly Guest Writer- Sara

WOW! I am pregnant! Only 24 weeks along and I feel like I should be giving birth tomorrow. I am trying not to complain or fuss, but this is not easy. I am trying to enjoy every moment of the stretching pains of this ever growing body. Oh, and the heartburn or is it acid reflux, whichever it is sending fire up my throat and waking me in the middle of the night choking. Can't breath with your guts shoved up into your rib cage. Crying at every cat food commercial on TV. Don't sleep on your back, baby can't breath. Don't forget your bananas or your legs will cramp up. And I am snoring so loud that my husband can't sleep.

All these things that in three months will all be long forgotten, the bundle I'll be holding will erase every memory. And no matter what anyone thinks, this child is as important and as exciting to me as the first five were. He will be a whole new ray of sunshine in my life, someone to give me a new purpose.

He is a renewed reason to practice being a better example of how to love. Teaching him to love others as you love yourself. Treat others the way you want to be treated. Do not return evil for evil. There is more joy in selflessness than in selfishness. All the important things to be passed on so he can better the lives of anyone who comes in contact with him.

What a JOY, a new baby, no matter what I have to go through to get him here, it is all worth it! There is no greater gift than the gift of a new life to have and to hold.