Friday, January 20, 2006

7 Surprises About Being A First Time Mom!

Last night I was looking through a pregnancy magazine that stressed 7 important surprises for first-time Moms. I found them interesting and wanted to share with the regular pregnancyweekly blog readers who are soon to be first-time mothers, just like myself. I'm trying to get real about the reality of giving birth and having a little one around. 1. It's Not About You Anymore For 9 months, everyone from belly touching strangers to attentive obstetricians make you feel like your the center of the universe. Then you give birth and the focus shifts immediately: it's all about the baby, not you! 2. Breastfeeding Is Hard While breastfeeding is natural, it doesn't just happen naturally or even (at least in some cases) painlessly. When you're in the midst of dealing with sore nipples, engorgement and weary frustration, it may seem those early weeks of rounding-the-clock nursing will never end. 3. You'll Discover New Degrees of Tired While veteran parents are eager to tell you all about parenthood-induced exhaustion, you won't really "get it" until you're staring bleary-eyed at the clock, desperately singing off-key lullabies to an infant who can't differentiate night from day. Childcare, you realize, is relentless. The constant contact can be taxing both mentally and physically. 4. You May Lose Your Sense of Accomplishment All day you've changed diapers, fed baby, burped baby... then repeated the cycle. But ultimately, there is no proof of accomplishment other than the fact that both you and baby are still alive. The mountain of laundry grows bigger and the pile of things littering the floor gets deeper, yet you feel like you haven't stopped moving all day. This sensation of constant motion without visible output can be bewildering. 5. Your Career Plans Become Fuzzy "The whole summer after Liam was born I was resigned to the fact that I needed to return to work," says Amanda Downey of New York. "Then one day I looked into my son's eyes and I knew that there had to be another way." She now stays at home full-time with her 2-year-old son. Downey's change of heart is not unique. 6. You Realize You Really Are "Mom" The flurry of guests and volunteer diaper-changers has left. Now it's just you and your partener. It finally sinks in - you're really The Mom, and you are expected to keep this child alive and thriving all day, every day. 7. There's No Magic Instant Connection Undoubtedly you've had that dream: the nurse places your beautiful, brand-new baby on your just vacated belly and it's love at first sight. Sure, it can happen that way, but for some it does not. "Both Eric and I were shocked that we did not have an instant connection with Annie," confesses Susan Sellenberg of Illinois. She was "a bit horrified," she says, that she didn't feel that instant "maternal instinct to feed, protect and nurture my new little pumpkin."

Thursday, January 19, 2006

PregnancyWeekly Guest Writer- Sally

My helpful tip to first time moms is about labor and delivery. With my first son, I allowed my self to be afraid of the pain of contractions and it made labor very difficult. With my second son, I took each contaction at a time and just concentrated on breathing and coping with that contraction. I must admit that walking into the hospital and up to labor and delivery was difficult as the contactions were somewhat uncomfortable, but once I got there I was ready for delivery. I didn't require any pain medication, as I tried to stay relaxed and focused on having this baby. When it was time to push, I didn't worry about pain, I just concentrated on the fact that my new little bundle was ready to enter this whole new world. My new little bundle came with such ease that I can only wish I had known about the concentration of breathing with my first son. Even my mother was amazed at how easy it was for me to have her youngest grandchild and told the nurses that I made childbirth look too easy. Delivery is easy if you're not afraid of it and concentrate on the job at hand and stay in the moment. Good luck to you all, and you can do it if you put your mind to it.

Is One Drink Too Many?

Last night I went to dinner with my husband, parents, and in-laws to rejoice about the news of my pregnancy. We went to a nice, fancy restaurant downtown in San Francisco that my husband and I like a lot. We only go there for special occassions, such as this. Sure enough I was excited to celebrate and be able to talk freely about the pregnancy with my family. As usual the waiter asked if we wanted wine and without any further thought I agreed to have a glass. My father took the initiative to say a speech for all of to cheers, at that point I was thinking how proud I am to be pregnant and to become a mother. Throughout the meal I sipped my wine and enjoyed evening. At the end of the dinner, right before dessert, I got up and went to the restroom with my mother. My mom brought up the fact that I had a glass of wine and I'm pregnant and that "it was best for me to watch out." My mouth dropped in shock and guilt! I had not realized that it could profoundly affect my baby! She reassured me that it is most likely okay and not to stress out too much over it, but to just be aware in the future. Yeah, I definitely should be! Afterall I am pregnant! How can I forget that I have a baby growing inside me? Today I started looking up information about pregnancy and alcohol. I found this article that obtains quite interesting facts. Do you know that between 15 and 25 percent of pregnant women continue to drink each month? Eventhough, it can increase the risk of infection in newborns. http://pregnancyandbaby.com/read/articles/5542.htm This is my first pregnancy and I am slowly learning my lessons. I do feel guilty that I drank wine yesterday, and I'm sure that I won't do it again. I need to let my baby grow as healthy as possible. Can't wait to hug and kiss my bundle of joy!

Wednesday, January 18, 2006

PregnancyWeekly Guest Writer- Katie

When I was about 18 weeks pregnant with my first child (my son Robert now 3), I had gone thru my normal regiment of putting my belly cream on in the morning and decided to wear this new really cute black cotton top I had picked up from Motherhood. The day went by and when I came home from work that evening, I noticed my whole stomach had a grayish discoloration to it all the way around. Immediately as a young first time mother to be, I thought "oh my gosh-is the baby not breathing? whats going on?" I panicked and started crying to my mother-of course she flipped out too which didn't make it any better and said I should call my doctor. About 20 minutes later, my aunt dropped by the house and I showed her my stomach. She told me to get a cloth and wipe my belly - I looked at her like are you crazy? When I wiped it with a warm wash cloth, sure enough the color came right off-talk about feeling dumb!! When I put stretch mark cream on along with a new black top, the color transferred on to my belly. I would have felt so dumb if I actually called my doctor =). I just cried and laughed at the same time with my mom and my aunt. Kind of funny but a good lesson learned.

Stop Me From Searching the Web!

At work I spend a lot of time on the computer. Usually I'm really good at staying focused and completing my work, but with this whole baby thing I can't stop myself from wondering onto baby websites!!! Yes, since I found out that I am pregnant, 6 weeks to be exact, I can't help but to look into anything and everything involving babies. I am super excited that I'm pregnant and this beautiful, bundle of joy will enter our world! I search the web to look up baby toys, clothes, books, gifts, etc. I am entering the world of babies! I'm trying to hold back before I start purchasing anything. I think it might be too soon and I don't want to jump the gun just yet. But I can't seem to stop myself from looking! I found this site that I keep looking through and I thought I should share. It's super cute! http://www.elegantchild.com/ I love all the Raggedy Ann & Andy dolls! They are so cute. But since I think that I 'm going to have a boy, maybe its mother's instinct... or not, I've been paying attention to boys' toys. I love this site, unfortunately the prices are a bit out of my league. Its for an elegant baby!

Tuesday, January 17, 2006

Proud Non-Smoker

I am ashamed to admit that I was a pack-a-day smoker. But since I found out that I was pregnant last week, I quit cold Turkey! This is very hard for me, especially because I've been a smoker for 15 years! I've been wanting to quit, but once I found out that I was pregnant that was reason enough to quit. The thought of hurting my baby just makes me feel so uncomfortable. I feel guilty for even smoking the first 5 weeks of my pregnancy. I was really bothered by the fact that I smoked, so I had to talk to my doctor. He reassured me that I most likely didn't hurt my baby in any way, but if I don't stop smoking there would be a chance that I could. With my worry over the weekend I found this article about smoking while pregnant and how it can lead to finger and toe defects! I think its important for everyone to read, especially if you're smoking during your pregnancy. http://today.reuters.co.uk/news/newsArticle.aspx?type=healthNews&storyID=2006-01-12T181649Z_01_COL265827_RTRIDST_0_HEALTH-SMOKING-DEFECTS-DC.XML I know that their are other mothers out there who are smokers, but I hope that once all of you found out that you were pregnant, you had energy and power to quit. I know that it is difficult. Oh man, I'm going through that right now! My job is stressful and I can never wait until my break for a smoke. That is all going to change! No more cigarette breaks with the usually co-workers. Maybe they might suspect something if I'm not going out to smoke with them? Today I just stayed really busy and didn't have time for a break, but I'm sure that I can't keep that up for too long!!! Does anyone have any ideas how I can get away from cigarette breaks without them suspecting anything? Good luck to all the mothers who are trying to quit. Lets do it together. It has definitely been a challenge so far, but it can only get better from here!