Friday, December 02, 2005
Happy Friday everyone! Remember our childhood days when we would play house? I would dress up in fancy dresses and heels and effortlessly work, clean, cook and raise all my kids (who were in fact stuffed animals) and it was so so easy. I got this article submission from Gerah who has a great and funny blog. Her article below makes me think of the ideal childhood fantasy of what being a mom is really like. Thanks Gerah for writing! And a happy weekend to all of you! - IT HAS BEGUN When I was a woman who had just ONE child, I still felt kinda hip, young, single-ish. Like I'm not totally chained down to this whole "family" business... Like I am still my own person. Like men might still find me attractive. Like other young, childless, single women would still consider me one of the gals. Sure, I've had a baby and all, but with only one child, I still had this feeling like I had an identity that isn't just "mother." Taking the plunge and becoming a mom of two somehow makes my "mother" status seem more official. It's the real deal... With a two year old and a bun in the oven, there is no turning back now. I'm a mom and there's no doubt about it. My young, hip, woman status is quickly slipping away. "YOU'RE SO SELFISH!!! AREN'T YOU HAPPY TO BE AN EXPECTANT MOTHER!?" you say... Well, sure I'm happy. It's absolutely delightful! But as I enter this next chapter in my life, I have to close another... The young, carefree life. Nights out on the town. Handfuls and handfuls of fun, wild, exciting friends. Late nights at rock concerts. Dreams of moving away and becoming something or someone interesting or famous... I guess I thought adulthood would include more sequined gowns and weekend trips to Paris. Instead, it seems to include a lot of jeans and sweatshirts, and weekend trips to the grocery store. I'm not saying I'm unhappy. On the contrary. I'm just saying that at 17, life was an open book, and I couldn't wait to fill in it's pages with my exciting life stories. Well, obviously, I've got the stories - they're just being written slightly differently than I thought they would. Yesterday at work I was walking past a glass divider and my reflection in the glass caught my eye. It was my stomach. "Is it starting to bulge?" I thought... (I've got a couple inches of natural bulge, friends. It's hard at this point to tell what is baby and what is Gerah.) I looked down and decided it's definitely baby bulge. It was then that I realized there's no turning back. I'm an official momma. A mother of two. The sequined gowns will have to wait a few years. I'll just put off the trips to Paris. The late nights out will be replaced by falling asleep at 8 pm while reading Dr. Seuss to my daughter, and drinking non-alcoholic beverages that can be passed safely to a baby via breastmilk.Baby #2 is on it's way. The belly is bulging. It has begun.
Thursday, December 01, 2005
Sleep is something we don't generally associate with motherhood. Moms are asked to lose a lot of sleep while feeding their babies, worrying about their child's well-being, and juggling all of their responsibilities. But for expectant moms, sleep is a major obligation. Their bodies need the strength and energy sleep and a good diet provide. Sleep can be elusive though, and many expectant moms have trouble falling asleep and staying asleep for a number of different reasons.Your little one needs more and more space to grow as your pregnancy progresses, and this leaves your bladder with less space to expand, and you with the urge to get up and run to the bathroom in the middle of the night. To minimize the number of times you need to wake up and get up, drink a little less before bedtime if you can but not too much less. It is very important that you stay hydrated. Just don't go overboard before going to bed. You, too, are growing throughout your pregnancy, and your body now needs more support than it used to. To support your more and more impressive bosom, get a very good bra and wear it all night. If bras make you uncomfortable, try a sport or jogging bra. To give your tummy and thighs the extra support they need, consider buying a body pillow, or creating your own version with a rolled up blanket and pillows. Body pillows are long, skinny pillows that you can tuck between your breasts, under your tummy, and between your legs, and they can cushion and support every part of you. Another factor that might be contributing to your sleeplessness is your internal timing mechanism. Your body's biological clock sets your sleep cycle, and a major life change like pregnancy can upset that cycle. The result is that your body's clock and your schedule are out of sync, and you're suffering from insomnia. Here are five things you can do to get your sleep cycle back on track. -Go to bed and get up at the same times each day. -Keep yourself in the sunlight or in well-lit rooms during the hours you are not supposed to be sleeping, and in darkness or behind sunglasses during the hours you should be sleeping. -Take a walk or a swim three to six hours before sleep to temporarily boost your alertness and then help you fall asleep and stay asleep when bedtime comes. Taking a hot bath two to three hours before bedtime will provide similar results. -Don't Worry. Try the relaxation techniques you learned in childbirth class. -Eat a light snack before bed to avoid waking up from hunger. Make sure to get all of your nutritional needs met during the day.
A great present that I received and will give to expectant parents is a great big pile of books. Whether they are long or short, classics or not - starting the book shelf is a great present to give. It can inspire a pregnant mom to read to her womb and it can start a tradition of reading. Time Magazine has come out with their Top 10 Children's Books for 2005. A great gift for the holidays or for any other occasion if the gift of reading.
is finally here! Yay! I don't know why I'm that excited - I'm not a big big fan. But I think after seeing so many pictures of Jennifer with her huge belly, I was just ready for her to give birth. Congrats to the celeb duo.
Wednesday, November 30, 2005
This site is pretty darn cool. I found it when I googled "pregnancy" in the images category. There was a small picture of hands and feet that brought me to the Westside Pregnancy Resource Center. It has some great pictures from the three trimesters, great info about the fetal development and some fun quotes. A great site if you want some visuals to see what's going on in your belly!
Tuesday, November 29, 2005
Health Magazine that is. I just got my December issue in the mail today and there were quite a few pregnancy snippets. I wanted to share... - Wouldn't delivering a baby in luxury be nice? According to Health, a hospital in North Carolina offers the comforts of a five star hotel for their expectant parents with things like in-room massages, spa tub baths. - Are home births save? Not according to ACOG - American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists. Be cautious about this one if you choose to go ahead with this birthing method... - Feel like going to the spa? If you live in Larkspur, Calif or New York or Charlotte, North Carolina, you should be happy to know that there are spas that cater to pregnant moms. Check these places out: www.barefootandpregnant.com, www.mamaspa.com or www.edamamespa.com If there are no pregnant related spas in your area, call around and see if there are any places that offer prenatal massages or a nail technician that can come to your home. - Feeling the urge to exercise rather than sit at home? Finding workout clothes isn't easy but try www.fitmaternity.com which stocks a variety of maternity exercise wear. This one stop shopping site will give you more time to hit the pavement!
This was the headline for a recent press release I read today. I like to post these types of lawsuits simply because if you are expecting and in the work force, it's important that you know about your rights and understand the policies within your Human Resources department. Here is the press release in full. - Former Employee of Insurance Giant Alleges that She was Fired for Taking Time Off to Give Birth to Her Premature Infant (PRWEB) November 29, 2005 -- Today, Erika Fractious, a former employee of GAB Robins North America, filed a retaliation and pregnancy discrimination lawsuit against the insurance industry giant. The suit also names Ms. Fractious’ supervisor, Tammy Holt. The case was assigned case number BC343600 by the Los Angeles County Superior Court. Ms. Fractious alleges that Ms. Holt harassed her for taking time off to attend pregnancy-related medical appointments. She further alleges that she was forced to take a leave of absence due to complications with her pregnancy. While on leave, Ms. Fractious gave birth to a six-week premature infant, who was immediately admitted to the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit. On the day she gave birth, Ms. Fractious alleges that Ms. Holt called her at the hospital and demanded to know when she was returning to work. According to Ms. Fractious’ complaint, Ms. Holt defamed Ms. Fractious while she was on pregnancy leave. The complaint alleges that Ms. Holt spread a false rumor that Ms. Fractious was taking illegal drugs and that she unjustifiably criticized her work performance. According to the allegations, Ms. Fractious also learned that Ms. Holt was interviewing applicants to replace Ms. Fractious. When Ms. Fractious was finally cleared by her physician to return to work, she called Ms. Holt and another supervisor, Jandi Steele. According to the Ms. Fractious’ allegations, however, she was notified that she had been replaced and that her employment had been terminated. In addition to the pregnancy-related claims, Ms. Fractious also alleges that she was retaliated against for complaining of unlawful wage practices. According to Ms. Fractious’ attorney, Andrew H. Friedman of Helmer • Friedman, LLP, “California law literally requires that employers guarantee reinstatement to employees who are on leave of absence due to a pregnancy-related disability. In fact, the law provides that qualified employees who suffer from pregnancy disabilities are entitled to take a leave of absence of up to four months. Only under the narrowest of circumstances is an employer allowed to break the guarantee
Lisa sent this cute story - thanks Lisa! And if any of you feel inspired to write a short or long story or word of advice, email me at pw_blog_kat @ yahoo.com - My husband and I were laying in bed last night waiting for our power to get turned back on (wind storm). He couldn't sleep so we laid there just talking about the baby (Im 13 weeks, not showing a bit) and he starting making kiss sounds. Then I noticed that after each time he "kissed", he also blew a breathe of air at my belly button. I asked him, "What are you doing?" His response was, "I'm blowing the baby kisses." I thought it was the cutest thing I've ever seen.
I know, I know - where have I been! With the Thanksgiving holiday and some sick children, I have been either cooking or playing Florence Nightengale. Not fun. But I'm back, catching up with all those great emails you gals are sending and weeding through the pregnancy news. I'm definitely on Jennifer Garner watch - when is she going to deliver?!