Friday, May 06, 2005

PregnancyWeekly's Friday Guest Writer!

This Sunday is Mother's Day --- Happy Mother's Day to all of you. Today's featured guest writers is Kim, who is currently expecting twins (a boy and a girl), and is so thrilled with the extra bonuses of her "two for one special" that the extradiscomforts of being "super pregnant" pale in comparison. She is strugglingto finish her PhD in Literature before the babies come in July and is pretty ure they will get her before her degree does. She lives in Texas, near SanAntonio, and generally "lurks" the "health and fitness" and "quiz" areas of PregnancyWeekly. Kim has her own blog. Be sure to check it out! Thanks Kim for sending on your great piece! I'm certain many who are reading will agree that shopping for maternity clothes can be a stressing time especially when the clothes you find aren't exactly the style you want or they make you simply feel like a fool. * Dear Maternity Fashion Industry: I'm really worried about you folks. Seriously. If you admit you have a problem, then you can begin to heal. Because you must be having “issues” if you think that $98.00 for a plain white cotton blend oxford blouse is at all appropriate. And those cute but sort of average jersey/rayon blend tops for 70.00? That's some kind of fantasy land you're living in. I can, and will, pay a good amount for something really really nice that will last me a long time. The cashmere blend sweater set was very pretty, and I liked the camel color that was better than the hot pink stuff you had all over the store, but it was a little pricey considering that it was only 15% cashmere and mostly silk. You can get almost the exact same kinds of sweaters for 30.00 at discount stores when you're not pregnant. $150.00 for it because there is a little more fabric is really outrageous. Do you not realize that as a pregnant person, I am anticipating a lot of necessary expenditures very soon? Like cribs? And diapers? And that my disposable income is not really earmarked for a silk shawl that granted is lovely but costs $90.00? And that adding a really cute pink ribbon to the sleeve of an otherwise completely ordinary white cotton blend blouse does make it cuter-- but it doesn't justify adding 40.00 to the price of the same basic top I can find at someplace like Target. Really. It doesn't. If that pink ribbon really cost you that much to add on to the shirt, you should get a new supplier. You're doing much better on making and selling some things that aren't hideously ugly. That's good work. Now try to bring your cost down to something that a person like me, who is not planning on being pregnant forever, would pay. It's more in the range of 10.00-40.00. That's for an individual item-- pants, a top. Anything more than that is insane of you. And please, cut back on the drugs that make you think that a place that offers clothes in that price range should ever, ever be called an "outlet" or a "discount" store. Because it's just cruel to drag a hormonally imbalanced woman, tired easily and slightly chubby and not in the mood to show off her bulges to everyone, into a shop thinking she'll get a fair price on a pair of pants that doesn't pinch her stomach but is not her husband's sweatpants. Get some therapy, before I have to because I can't find any clothing to wear and so lock myself in the house until my babies are in first grade. Admit that you have a problem and stop supporting the hallucinogenic drug industry. Clothing is nice, but it shouldn't cost more than the GNP of a small country to have enough things to wear for a few days without having to do laundry. Yours Truly, Kim

Thursday, May 05, 2005

What in the heck is a blog? What is the PregnancyWeekly blog?

Not only do I get several emails about drinking or dancing...but I also receive a lot of emails which simply ask, "What is a blog?" Which is a great question. What exactly is a blog? Here is how Blogger describes a blog: A blog is a personal diary. A daily pulpit. A collaborative space. A political soapbox. A breaking-news outlet. A collection of links. Your own private thoughts. Memos to the world. Your blog is whatever you want it to be. There are millions of them, in all shapes and sizes, and there are no real rules. In simple terms, a blog is a web site, where you write stuff on an ongoing basis. New stuff shows up at the top, so your visitors can read what's new. Then they comment on it or link to it or email you. Or not. Here is how we at PregnancyWeekly describe our blog: The Pregnancy Weekly blog is an online magazine about pregnancy, baby care and parenting. Our blog is in connection to Pregnancy Weekly an online guide and community providing resources that monitor your week by week pregnancy. For those of you who are reading and have a blog, leave a comment and tell me (or explain to others) what a blog is or perhaps what your blog defines.

Wednesday, May 04, 2005

Drinking? Sushi? Cheese? Coffee? Dancing until Dawn?

Going from single life to married life is a big change. Going from married life to family life is a huge change. I receive many emails about drinking while pregnant. As well as, is it okay to eat sushi? And what cheese can I eat? Cottage cheese? Cream cheese? Can I stay out late dancing until dawn? One email even said, "Dear Sir." And so while I could write about all these topics, I thought I'd open it up for your comments. Tell me dear readers, what are your thoughts on... Drinking while pregnant? Eating sushi while pregnant? Eating cheese while pregnant? Drinking coffee and other caffinated drinks while pregnant? Dancing until dawn while pregnant? And if you are wondering about these questions, do realize that everyone will have a different answer and their doctors/midwives will tell them differently. Some will say in moderation, some will say no way jose. So I'm curious as to what you think.

Is there a Doctor in the House?

In a fantasy world, your doctor would be arround to answer your questions 24/7. Day and night. Now your doctor is around 24/7...but they have patients to care for other than you. And so sometimes your email or phone call won't be answered for awhile. If your question is a non-emergency question, there are online resources that you can research to find answers. Of course you should always triple check with your OB, but if you're like me and need *some* kind of answer, try these websites. Mayo Clinic WebMD Ask Dr.Sears

Tuesday, May 03, 2005

Pickles and Ice Cream!

Yummy, pregnancy food cravings! The most common food cravings are for chocolate, pickles, ice cream, citrus fruits and chips. Most women I know are craving cheeseburgers in their third trimester. What are YOU craving?

Mommy Proofing Your House

Baby proofing your house includes covering outlets, covering sharp edges, putting up gates, hiding loose cords, keeping breakables high, locking cabinets. But what about Mommy Proofing your home? This is a phrase I coined when I was pregnant with my first. There are a lot of things that had to be changed around the house in order to keep me sane and safe. 1. Smoke Alarms. Although my sense of smell was working overtime, I wanted smoke alarms to be further safe. 2. Stickies in the bathtub. As your belly expands, your sense of gravity changes drastically. Getting up out of the tub was tough for me especially when the tub is slippery and wet. So putting down some stickies that provided some traction really helped. When I got too big for baths, the stickies helped in the shower too. And of course, a nonslip bath mat. 3. Food Alerts. The sense of smell is greatly heightened during pregnancy and is directly related to my stomach. Any food that created a nauseous feeling immediately had to be tossed. A very important Mommy Proofing. 4. Lock and Key. A lock and key was needed for my cleaning supplies during my nesting urges. I often got the nesting urges late at night thus losing sleep and waking my husband up while I vacumned at 1 a.m. So we got a lock and key for my cleaning supply closet and he hid the key at night. 5. Pregnancy Reading Shock Syndrome. During my first pregnancy, I was very curious about everything that was going on in my body and around me. Upon hearing I was pregnant, I immediately bought 10 books and devoured each chapter. This however led to many times of "freaking out." I would read that I would be feeling movement and yet I wasn't feeling anything. And so I had to Mommy Proof myself from the books and realize that the books weren't always right. 6. Friends and Family Shock Syndrome. On the same account, I had to Mommy Proof myself from friends and family and their large amounts of advice they gave. Often it was in one ear and out the other. Not that I didn't appreciate their advice, mind you, but it was very overwhelming. 7. Mean People Suck Proofing. While most people were excited, happy and full of congratulations, there were many people who made insensitive remarks during my pregnancy. I decided that I would let these comments roll off my back and not have that negative energy in my house. Why focus on mean people and their sucky comments? 8. A Large Supply of Post-Its. My pregnancy brain often forgot a lot of things and needed constant reminding. Hence the post-it notes. 9. Wifi. Getting wireless internet was somewhat of a luxury. But the husband is somewhat of a technie nut so we were justified in getting wifi. Having this allowed me to surf the internet, access my email, read the PregnancyWeekly boards, go online shopping, from anywhere I wanted. This was great for days I was stuck in bed or on the couch and didn't want to sit at the computer desk. A vital Mommy Proof for me. 10. Partner Proofing. My last Mommy Proof. I had to have my husband Partner Proofed. He had to be prepped, ready, able to deal with a pregnant wife for 9 months. I'm sure it wasn't easy. I know it wasn't easy. But absolutely vital for 9 months to be my number one person for support. What do YOU do think needs Mommy Proofing around your home?

Monday, May 02, 2005

PregnancyWeekly on Oprah (!) (?!)

There are people in life who only need their first name and are instantly recognized. Madonna, Britney, Bono. OPRAH. Oprah is a powerful lady and a household name. Plus she has a sucessful show. The March 2005 board of PregnancyWeekly love Oprah and are putting together a proposal for the Oprah show. Their "wildest dream" is to meet each other on the Oprah show. After 9 months of supporting each other and talking about anything pregnancy related and everything non-pregnancy related, these March gals have never met except through the keyboard and the Internet. Crystal, the ringleader of this Oprah movement, tells me that she has 60 ladies who have written personal letters to Oprah and she has put together a collage of pictures of the March mommies and their newborns. It's amazing what the Internet can do. It can bring pregnant women together to share, cry, ask questions and support each other through an amazing and sometimes difficult emotional nine months. The PregnancyWeekly blog wishes the March 2005 board the best of luck with their Oprah endeavor. I hope they make it on to the show!

Sunday, May 01, 2005

Community Baby Showers

Happy new month of May! I read this article today about a community baby shower. What is a community baby shower? An excerpt from the article, Too often, the joy that should accompany the birth of a new baby is marred by poverty, violence, or abuse.The Oregon Department of Human Services, along with many of its community partners, work daily with individuals facing an impending birth with no resources at all for their new little one. Sometimes a woman has fled domestic violence, which usually accelerates during pregnancy or after the birth of a newborn. Sometimes a baby is born drug-affected and comes into immediate foster care. Other times poverty has made it impossible to prepare for a baby. For these little ones, there will be no baby shower, no welcoming gifts, and no celebration. Organizers are seeking donations of disposable diapers, baby powder, baby oil, baby shampoo, pacifiers, baby wipes, receiving blankets or quilts, knitted booties, hats and other items; bottles; T-shirts and onesies for newborns; socks for newborns; Q-tips; baby toys; and pajamas. Any of these items would be greatly appreciated. This particular community baby shower will be taking place in southern Oregon, but what a great idea it would be to have in cities all over! The act of giving is good for the soul. Whether you have a baby shower for someone else or if you simply donate your old baby items to someone who is in need, every little bit of help counts. I have weeded through my old pregnancy magazines and duplicates I have of pregnancy books and donated them to the maternity ward of my hospital as well as my local library. Perhaps you have two of an item or don't need as much...remember someone out there could very well use what you have to give. Whether it's the Salvation Army, GoodWill, RedCross, your local church or maternity ward at the hospital.